Ask about their job or their pet. But don't be naieve.. Your House Is Phoning It In. Spending the night at your guy’s house for the very first time can be a nerve-racking situation. Play it safe for now. The only thing you'll be questionning is whether you'll sit on the left side of the couch or switch it up and sit on the right. Bring a gift. it didnt work out,but it is ok because we both were looking for different things, i wanted a relationship he got scared when it started going somewhere and claims there was no connection even though we were all over each other for a month lol. You are a grown woman, you decide what you want or not. obviously Lol. If we like each other then I still have a second night open while I'm down there to plan something. One guy was an ass, and after driving 2 hrs. Worst case scenario, he bops you on the head, ties you up, rapes you repeatedly until he kills you and eats your remains. When a man invites you for food at his house, he is fully aware that you are not starving. Take your fully charged cell phone. It may have worked out alright with someone else, but that doesn't guarantee your safety in the future. Anyway,a little over 2 years ago I met a woman 10 years younger than me on POF. saying "we dont know each other but i'd like to change that, message me back if your interested that was basically his first message to me, his profile was good and obviously i liked his pics to (which i dont judge but that was a plus). Laurafrances Best case scenario, you meet someone wonderful, get married, have babies and live happily ever after. Criss like i siad, i did meet someone at their house on the first date once before and it worked out fine but some people are against meeting at the house first. The sofa date should be farther into the relationship. (not sure if that matters). eventually i did meet his dad, which at first i thought was way to soon obviously but since he was home i walked by the room when i was leaving, it was rude if i didnt say hi since he said hi to me and my date introduced us quickly. the date lasted 2 and a half hours (he was falling asleep from working so much lol) and it was getting late. lol....and I'm still here. thank you for all your posts...update on the date. I got in his car and we drove the five minutes it took to get to the restaurant. I know most will probably tell you it's not a good idea and in reality,they're probably correct. I dont think you have to be scared of him. Usually it gets pretty hard to step out of that comfortzone.. Don’t meet at his home or yours. Keep in mind, we are older - I'm almost 40 and he's mid 50s so I would hope we are past the silly rules (?) I am much more rational now than I was 10 years ago - especially when I have all of you for my voice of reason! I knew I wasn't going to initiate anything, but like I say, these situations are kind of asking for it. but it really wasnt bad, it was a quick hi nice to meet u type thing, he was in the room accross the hall with the door open as we were leaving which we walked by so it would have been rude if i ignored him, at least it wont be so awkward or i wont be as nervous if it gets to the point of actually meeting him. i met this guy last week online, we hit it off pretty well right away, both looking for eventually a relationship, both have the same type of sense of humor etc.and funny thing is he has the same last name as my cousin's boyfriend so he may actually be related to him (havent asked him yet) haha. GB11CR7 Yes, it was very stupid of me. then we said goodnight. I'm going to be in his City for a couple of days and he's invited me over for a first date at his house for a home cooked meal. One came over and we sat in my living-room talking. So your significant other isn’t a serial killer. Chances are huge that sex is going to happen if there is some real chemistry between you. There is no such think as dating online. By Now starting dating again. So, you've been dating the new guy for a month or two and things are going great. I appreciate it.   Pasted as rich text. Plan activity and a venue that interests both of you. My roommate (he's a guy) says to hell with rules - he doesn't see anything wrong with just going with the flow even if we end up in bed. Does he live with his DAD??? That chasm between the good and the bad really gets a lot smaller the more you get to know a person. You don’t want to show up, bag in tow, only to sit down on the sofa and asking “Now what?”. Before I arrived, he mentioned he would cook for me and I had similar thoughts to the ones you're having now: it's sort of to be expected that things MIGHT happen when two adults are alone. I started talking to a guy online, went to his city and we decided to meet up. You might have been talking to this guy online and he seems honest but people lie all the time and that's how women go missing or dead. Lot's of sex was had too. Afterwards, we went to my place. This is something he and I joke about now, but it could easily have been a very, very dangerous situation for me had he not had good intentions. it went really well thankfully. After that we went to a walk ... And then back to his place. I’d say, how well do you know him? I'm a massage therapist. Skype has definitely helped me see his mannerisms and part of his house so I feel a little more comfortable. Make sure someone trustworthy knows who you are meeting and where. First impressions can be nerve-wracking, especially when you're visiting someone's home for the first time. No! Its not a matter of rules, its a matter of possibly risking your life. Then about 6 weeks ago I went back on POF and met another woman. When are they happiest? For some reason I feel like a woman of 40 years is either tougher or has more sense than the 18-20s group. I would think that the age factor will keep things in check. Started Monday at 08:27 AM. Just be careful and always do what your instinct tells you to. i have done this before and the guy wasn't a creep or anything like that so it lucked out for me (my friend knew where i was going so that was a plus in case he did turn out to be a creep. I know I appreciate it when the woman I’m dating makes it a point to give me the space to hang … Second, came to my house, were in bed within 10 minutes, she wanted sex.   You cannot paste images directly. Looking at cyber dating cuz I'm new to it...and it's not going too well...can't even get a FIRST date, much less dates for MONTHS and then they get sick of me!!! yeah i just posted an update. Dressing for the Occassion Research where you will be going to meet him. Plus if he's that interested he'll jump at the chance for a second date at the house if the first goes well. Guys come over all the time to be massaged. × I think it's best if neither party know exactly where the other one lives for the first date. Rather than asking if anyone has a story that worked out... shouldn't you be asking of a story where it didn't work out? Upload or insert images from URL. Sure, it probably would be perfectly safe given most guys aren't murderers or rapists, but its still better to err on the side of caution when it comes to the matter of your personal safety. so, so far so good with the guy. I never did anything. However, there are times when the other person does have bad intentions, and unfortunately bad things do happen. Not only do you want everything to go smoothly, but you also want to make sure you don’t overstay your . You are older but don't be stupid. Started Tuesday at 10:54 PM, By He has already implied that he's leaving the whole weekend open to see what happens... Good or bad idea - first date at his house (he's cooking)? ValleyGirl123 Yes, the first time is the most challenging time, perhaps that is why many gurls begin with another gurl. If this can't be avoided, then I highly discourage going into someone's home, apartment, condo, etc. and then he said ok, change of plans chinese food take out and a movie. Of course not every person in this world is bad with bad intentions, and there are times (like this) when everthing goes well. Coffee shop, Panera, even a well traveled public park. Being friendly with your boyfriend's siblings, especially the … Also I'd have one friend in particular that you may have as a sort of emergency contact. We talked on the phone for about a month and then we decided to meet. Are you worried about how it looks, or are you worried about him making a move and you being uncomfortable, or are you worried about hooking up and him taking that as evidence that you're 'just' for hookups? thanks, yeah im gonna tell him change it back to bowling, his original plan was go play pool but when i told him i suck at pool, we decided to change it to bowling … The 25-year-old mother is believed to have been killed over the weekend by a man she met on Facebook and invited to her apartment for the first time … I've come closer to killing myself skiing down an icy slope...lol...at least it FELT like death! They are naked. I suggest not even entertaining their convo no matter how hot they are. You … Thanks AshBrown... yes age certainly does help. I am glad to know that the age factor prevailed. Meeting your girlfriend’s parents for the first time is a big step in a relationship. Both probably true haha, but I still lean towards caution but more towards danger of bad situations. Figure out the logistics. With that said, the beginning of meeting someone can always feel somewhat stiff and awkward. Very mature question. i think he basically came up with that idea because i said i like movies and we both like chinese so i think he figured it would be something i would like so thats why he changed the plans. Ask him what nights he plans to spend time with his buddies, and encourage him to do so. First off,I'm a 52 yr old man that doesn't look his age. An invitation to have dinner at a guy's home is flattering, but beware, ladies, you could be stepping into the lair of the Come Over Guy. from the minute i got there i was not an ounce nervous. Instead, the best way to approach the first meeting is as if it was a first date. GREAT! Good idea or bad? He might be hoping one thing leads to another, but so what, can you blame him for wanting you? would you meet a guy for the first time at his house or no? Its easy and convenient for a guy to just ask you to come over. Meet him in a public place for the first date & once you know him better then maybe you can go to his house for food and movies. I may be foolish, but after all...I'm 57, I'm allowed to be foolish... thanks, that was actually like a month ago and i did go to his house and im still alive lol, we hung out for a month but unfort. Meet someplace neutral and public. I would advise against meeting him anywhere other than out in public. However, it doesn't need to. You two are old enough that the rules no longer apply in my opinion. I again had this little voice in my head telling me "do you really want that, things MIGHT happen". I think you should just go with the flow and if you're in the mood have a good romp with him but if you don't feel it at the time then wait or make him wait. Well, logic would dictate that no, you absolutely should NOT meet him at his place. thanks for the advice, appreciate it. I think the first date should be in a public place where you part ways at the end of the evening and do not go to eachother's house. Since you're older and have corresponded prior to this date I would say it is OK. By Stassi Reid Sep 23, 2016. The Come Over Guy is … he did ask me to text him so he knew I got home okay. When I was single and dating, I once went 2 hours away by train to meet a guy and cook dinner at his place together as a first date. Obviously, this is something every guy has done at least once a first date. Much more dangerous doing that, then going to a dates house after talking to them on the phone or emailing them, for weeks. Op, there's always a risk, it's up to you to decide if you want to take it. Asking if anyone else has done this and it's turned out okay means nothing. Don't worry she won't know where you are at all times only when you want her to. You should be more cautious.and yes its a first date, its the first time you're seeing him in person.don't let chatting give you a false sense of security. we talked a lot about each other and i even met his dad because he was home which at first when he told me his dad was home i was like kinda soon for that lol. I suspect that many of us know that once we accept fully engaging in sex with a man that we will slip inexorably into the life style. Starting with some more obvious points and moving on to ones you probably hadn’t even thought of, read on to find out what women DO notice about guys in those first few moments they meet… #1 – Posture Confident posture (image source) Posture is the way you carry yourself. To cut a long story short: I ended up having sex with him that night. Or get chinese out at a restaurant. × Ask about their family, hobbies, or home. should i tell him just stick with the original plans and go bowling, or go to his house (i'm meeting him there he isnt picking me up), or should i just go with it, my thing is if he isn't like the creeps out there, and is really a decent guy and shows that when we are hanging out watching movie, that could show a lot about him and the type of person he is. Don't ever go to someone's house the first time you meet him offline. Get to know about your partner’s relationship with the children. Yes it can. You don't know this man. By Latoya Hoyte. Bowling + maybe a night cap of an ice cream sundae is appropriate - so is dinner and bowling or bowling and a late night coffee shop. Research. I don't think he sounds like a creep at all, but I would change the date back to bowling... just to be extra safe. 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