Well-Intended But Ignorant Comments #1-2 (Scene: NESSA is telling A FRIEND about her autism for the first time.) Copyright © 2021 Autistic Women & Nonbinary Network, Inc. ♥ Website and hosting provided by. Autism is just a made up condition used to excuse bad behavior Saying this to someone who has autism is like saying, “Your eyes aren’t really blue, you just wear contacts to make them look blue.” Autism is not a made up condition. You don’t seem like him.”. This statement is insulting because it’s ableist. “I know a kid whose autism is really severe. About Kaylene Kaylene George is an autistic self-advocate, author, and mother of five, including one autistic child. She realized her own autism as an adult … I know someone who has autism, and you are nothing like him or her Just like neurotypical people, everyone with ASD is different. Issue 75 – Helping Your Child with Autism Thrive. That’s because the child hasn’t had the experiences of adults and cannot speak from a place of being an adult because they are not one. And neither should anyone else. 20 Things Not to Say to a Person on the Autism … But plenty of Autistics do get married, have jobs, or go to college. But people tend to make exceptions for autistic people. Contrary to popular belief, there is some general etiquette you should know when interacting with Autistic people (yes, Autistic people can understand and have etiquette, thank you very much). You are being (selfish, lazy, bratty, naughty, rude, etc.) It’s very offensive, and for some people, could be very triggering (psychologically and emotionally traumatic). When I … There are many prominent Autistic people in diverse fields and known for a variety of accomplishments, and it’s very annoying to be constantly compared to the one same person all the time. Other people, like Kassiane Sibley and Kathryn Bjørnstad , who are frequently touted as “high-functioning” because of their blogs, do not have consistent adaptive functioning abilities. To anyone who doesn’t know, the ‘I’m so sorry’ line is something that should never, ever be uttered to an autistic person. It’s insulting because it suggests that because the person doesn’t appear to be disabled or doesn’t fit preconceptions of what Autistic people are supposed to sound or act like, that person must therefore not have a disability or be Autistic. Everyone has the right to decide how they would like to be described, and you should respect that right. (Or, in fact, the parents of any child with special needs.) Also, autism … Your email address will not be published. The login page will open in a new tab. Many Autistics have higher than average measured IQ, and many Autistics have measured IQ that falls right into the median, while still others have an intellectual or cognitive disability. 5. While this is rarely said to Autistic people whose disability is very visible, it is very frequently said to Autistic people with much more invisible disability. You couldn’t do that if you were really Autistic.”. Friend: Oh my gosh, I had no idea! 25 Awesome Things About Autism. We just might not show this in ways most people understand. So, are you really smart? When I speak around the country about growing up with autism to different organizations, schools, businesses, etc. People like Amy Sequenzia , Larry Bissonnette , Amanda Baggs , Tracy Thresher , Hope Block , Sue Rubin , and Carly Fleischmann are all non-speaking and they can speak quite capably for themselves. But you don’t look any different Saying this to someone who has autism is like saying this to someone who is color blind. There is literally no evidence… nada, zilch, zero, that vaccinations cause autism, and let’s just say as a completely metaphorical statement that it did, would you rather a dead child than an … Yes, it’s true that every Autistic isn’t going to get married, have a job, or go to college. It is impossible to know what an Autistic’s abilities and skills versus needs and challenges after a brief conversation either in person or in the comments thread of an internet post. Hey readers, As a person with autism, it can be frustrating at times talking to people about my condition as they have these preconceived ideas about what it must … Ways to Protect a Child With Autism From Cyberbullies, When ASD Children Become Easy Prey For Bullies, How to Handle Bullying at School As the Parent of a Special Needs Child, Ways to Help Someone With Special Needs Spot a Fake Friendship. A lot of people say that I look like my mom, even though I don’t see it other than in how my eyes are shaped. 7. Some people are considered shy or barely talk at all, while others almost never stop talking. While not every Autistic person may be able to do all or some of these things, it’s very ableist to assume that no Autistic person can or that anyone who can must not be Autistic. Sometimes people who say these things are well-meaning, which can make the impact even worse. In this video, I tell you 5 things not to say to autistic people or someone with Autism/Aspergers. The same can be said for autistic people. Nevertheless, the word “retarded” is often very hurtful for Autistic people, as it is frequently used as an insult to dehumanize people with developmental and intellectual disabilities. “Have you ever heard of Temple Grandin? Some (like me) are kind of in between and will have times when they will barely talk, and other times where they will share almost everything that is on their mind, with almost anyone who is willing to listen. This is very dismissive of a person’s disability and experiences. In high school one time, someone told me I looked like my cousin, who was in the grade ahead of me. No, of course not. Step into the autistic person's shoes and ask yourself how you'd feel if people … it’s always often a surprise to people to hear that I’m on the autism spectrum. “You mean you are a person with autism. 3. We present to you another collaborative piece where we discuss a bunch of things people should not say to autistic women (or, indeed, to any autistic person, female-presenting or otherwise) and why saying … Besides, every Autistic person’s experiences vary so much that it’d be an injustice to all of us for you to ask a question that implies that there’s one way to experience being Autistic. You must be really good with numbers Similar to above, some of us may be considered math prodigies, while others may struggle with math. 6. I couldn’t tell that you’re Autistic.”. Now imagine if your boss said something like, “I would like to see you try to work harder on…,” How would you feel? He offers his friends the guacamole his mom made earlier. Imagine if you were at work, and your boss said something to you like, “You are not working very hard.” How would you feel? Here are things not to say to autistic people part two By princessAspien on tiktok #autism #autistic #autismawareness #autismfamily #autismparent #autismparenting #autismacceptance. Also, everyone who has autism is affected in different ways. Just don’t. Even though it may seem like we are acting in specific ways just because we can, or just to bother others (and maybe some of us do), for a lot of us, either we are not aware of how our words and actions affect others, or there is an underlying cause. Autism is not a made up condition. If there’s one thing that’s sure to offend an Autistic, it’s seeing him or her in terms of common stereotypes about autism. This is a very personal decision. 14. If your IQ is over 70 or 75, you're assumed to be independent (unless you … Required fields are marked *. I was never directly taught what not to say … “You should be very proud of yourself. Non-autistic people haven’t had the same experiences in life and in communication as autistic people… All Autistic people share some of the same core characteristics that define autism — key differences in neurological functioning, sensory and cognitive processing, and communication abilities that often manifest as disability. My name is Leanne, I’m 24 years old, and have a very mild form of autism called Asperger’s syndrome. “I hate it when people say I’m ‘acting crazy’ and ‘You need to calm down.’ Sensory overload isn’t fun, and even at my age, it still … This is like asking a Christian who likes to wear cross jewelry to please not wear a cross necklace in public, or asking a Latino or Hispanic from an hispanohablante country to please not speak Spanish while in public. Some Autistic people take medications for various reasons, and some do not take any medications. Nessa: Of course you had no idea, I just told you less than five seconds ago.People with autism … Don’t say you’re disabled It’s our word, not yours. A very small minority of Autistics are also savants. While we share certain characteristics and experiences of the world, our life stories and our experiences with people and ableism are vastly different. One person with autism may have an IQ in the average to the genius range, while another may fall in the average to well below average range. 7. Factually speaking, Autistic people in many cases do not have an intellectual or cognitive disability, and many people with intellectual or cognitive disabilities are not also Autistic. Some have Autistic children. Feeling like no one cares what they have to say is a problem that plagues many people with autism, simply because too few people do. We hope you enjoyed this article. Listening to what autistic adults (not just me) have to say would be a good place to start. Kyle’s friends think he just doesn’t care about them, or is being rude because they expected that he would offer the guacamole more than once, or leave some in case they changed their minds. Please don’t use it. Autism is a part of who I am in many ways and my experience will vary completely to the next person you will meet; autism or not. If an Autistic person was diagnosed by a qualified clinician familiar with autism, that person is Autistic, regardless of whether they look, speak, or act like another Autistic person. It’s embarrassing.”. Hi indie people! This is tailored to adults who were diagnosed with Aspergers, but the list can apply to many ages and many conditions other than Aspergers Syndrome. How Do You Know When Your ASD Child is Being Bullied? 11 Things Autistic People Say Can Trigger a Meltdown Many people on the autism spectrum experience meltdowns, and contrary to the negative stereotypes out there, meltdowns are not a behavior issue … 10. Your email address will not be published. “You’re not like my child; you can write a blog post. Home » Bullying » Top 8 Things You Should Never Say To a Person With Autism. I know some adults say that a child has autism to excuse the child’s behavior, but that doesn’t mean that all cases of autism are fake or fabricated. People With Autism Are Passionate . Yes, Autistic people can have sex. The answer is almost always yes. Residential funding for disabled adults is hard to come by.It's especially scarce for autistic adults who aren't intellectually disabled. Secondly, while every Autistic person has different abilities and needs, that does not mean that Autistic people who may present as highly verbal or invisibly disabled cannot speak to the commonalities that they have with Autistic people who do not present the same way as themselves. How many "typical" people can say … With her permission, this post is republished here. People with autism may experience avalanche-style misunderstandings. Every Autistic person is different from every other Autistic person. Please don’t talk about us as if we’re not in the room when we’re sitting or standing right here. The only context in which such personal questions are appropriate with strangers or acquaintances might be during a conference or panel presentation where the Autistic speaker is specifically speaking about his or her experiences. We may also be highly intelligent about some topics, but barely know anything about other topics. Autistic people, like all people with developmental disabilities, are at much higher risk for abuse or victimization — sexual or otherwise — than the general population, but that doesn’t mean that Autistic people don’t know about or can’t have sex. I can cut some people a bit of slack on this one, as anyone who knows me, and my life, knows that living with children on the Autism spectrum is a daily challenge. “You have no right to claim to speak for severely Autistic people who can’t speak for themselves.”. 8. I know some adults say that a child has autism to excuse the child’s behavior, but that doesn’t mean that all cases of autism are fake or fabricated. The r-word is often used to express hatred for people with disabilities. There could really be a hundred or a thousand of these, but I’ve decided to choose just fifteen for the sake of brevity and not imploding anyone’s browser. This is very rude to ask someone, especially someone whom you do not know well. You don’t care about anybody but yourself Let me explain. 5. Some Autistics have dyscalculia or similar learning disabilities, and actually find math to be extremely difficult. Even though it may seem like people on the autism spectrum don’t care about others (and it may be true that some don’t), many do. Unless you know someone very, very well, you have no way of knowing what specific adaptive functioning skills or life skills a person has or what his or her needs and challenges might be, and it’s not possible to acquire that information simply by looking at a person. Here are some things you should not say to people with autism spectrum disorder (ASD): 1. Especially in those cases, people might not understand why these can be so offensive and hurtful, and occasionally insist that what they’re saying is a compliment, even when it’s not. Other Autistic people are never taught about sex, for a variety of reasons. When I was in high school, I struggled with math. Other Autistics, including those who might be good at math, simply don’t like it. Many Autistic adults take issue with the “high-functioning” and “low-functioning” labels for a variety of reasons. Other things, maybe, but not the mere fact that they’re autistic… But it gets very tiresome for Autistic people to constantly hear about Temple Grandin day in and day out. That debate aside, this is also very dismissive of a person’s individual experiences with disability. Here are things not to say to autistic people which I see often when it comes to the general public. TEN THINGS TO SAY TO AN AUTISM MOM (or Dad) IF YOU WANT TO GET THROAT PUNCHED. Most people with autism look very similar to neurotypical people of the same age, or to other members of their family. Flapping, rocking, spinning, jumping, or other stimming (calming behaviors), in the vast majority of cases, hurts neither the person doing it nor anyone else nearby. There are Autistics who are relatively computer illiterate as well as Autistics who thrive in the IT world and community. 15. There are some Autistic people who also have an intellectual or cognitive disability. However, my life is not … The ability to write a blog post says absolutely nothing about a person’s needs and challenges, and how disability might affect an individual person. Not everyone who can write a blog post can live independently, tend to their own activities of daily life, get and keep a job, complete higher education, travel alone, communicate with oral speech, or manage their own finances. This article was featured in Issue 75 – Helping Your Child with Autism Thrive. I know this because whenever you tell me I “don’t look autistic”, what you’re saying is I’m not matching your expectations of what an autistic person is supposed to look like – Chris Bonnello; We cry, we scream, we hit out and break things. What makes Autistic people a group united by a shared diagnosis are the commonalities of all Autistic people. (Asking a question about the Autistic person to a parent, support person, aide, sibling, or friend who is standing or sitting beside the Autistic person ). Some people have received both labels but at different times in their lives, and many Autistics have very uneven skill levels — some people who might be able to articulate their ideas very well at a conference may be unable to travel alone or cook for themselves, while some people who are unable to communicate with oral speech might be able to live independently. “But you’re married/have a job/go to college. It also suggests that “normal” is the standard to which anyone should aspire to appear or act (and that “normalization” should be the ultimate goal of therapies or treatments for autism rather than pragmatic coping skills to navigate a world where Autistics are a minority), and therefore that it’s not good to act or speak in ways commonly associated with being Autistic, even if those behaviors don’t actually hurt anyone. At least, people shouldn’t say these things if they’re not trying to be rude. Nessa: You are my really good friend, and I think there’s something you should know about me: I have autism. 2. They spend the time, energy, and imagination necessary to truly master their area of interest, and they stick with it even when it's difficult, frustrating, or "uncool." Firstly, any non-speaking Autistics can speak for themselves. For example, imagine that Kyle is watching a tournament on TV with some friends. Notify me of follow-up comments by email. “I wish people wouldn’t say, ‘Oh, but aren’t we all a little autistic?’” 4. In order to support us to create more helpful information like this, please consider purchasing a subscription to Autism Parenting Magazine. (For those who may not regularly read my blog, ableism is like racism, ageism, or sexism, but directed toward people with disabilities.) Perhaps like you, over the years I have learned ways to enhance my communication with those on the autism spectrum: be concrete, don’t assume knowledge, use a soft voice, don’t use sarcasm or metaphors, be direct but non-judgmental. You wouldn’t ask a stranger if he or she was on medication for anything, so you shouldn’t ask an Autistic person whom you don’t know very well if he or she takes medications either. Just as neurotypical people can have different levels of intelligence, so can people who have autism. My child will never be able to write a blog post.”. Asking if we like math, computers, or numbers because we’re Autistic is like asking a Black or African American if he or she likes watermelons or rap music because he or she is Black or African American. After logging in you can close it and return to this page. https://awnnetwork.org/15-things-you-should-never-say-to-an-autistic This hinders the formation and maintenance of lasting relationships, and can make for a very lonely life. The message that that communicates to us is that we don’t matter and can’t possibly have anything meaningful to communicate. Here are some things … Her books are really amazing!”. Kyle does not see it like they do, because at least he offered it one time, and his friends said they didn’t want any. Furthermore, any Autistic person will understand another Autistic person’s experiences far better than any non-Autistic person by nature of also being Autistic. 18. Many people on the spectrum are truly passionate about the things, ideas, and people in their lives. But there was a gap in my knowledge. At least, not about their autism. And yes, some Autistics happen to be excellent with math and enjoy working or studying in related fields. How would you react? “Can you please not flap/rock/spin/jump in public? Some happen more often over the internet, and some happen more often in person, but they’re all phrases or questions that can be incredibly hurtful. That doesn’t mean that I should be advocating for your child in his or her school (unless you ask me to do that, it’s not my place), or that I know your child’s particular quirks or personality, because unless I actually spend time with your child, I don’t and won’t. 4. __CONFIG_colors_palette__{"active_palette":0,"config":{"colors":{"3e1f8":{"name":"Main Accent","parent":-1}},"gradients":[]},"palettes":[{"name":"Default Palette","value":{"colors":{"3e1f8":{"val":"var(--tcb-skin-color-0)"}},"gradients":[]},"original":{"colors":{"3e1f8":{"val":"rgb(19, 114, 211)","hsl":{"h":210,"s":0.83,"l":0.45}}},"gradients":[]}}]}__CONFIG_colors_palette__, __CONFIG_colors_palette__{"active_palette":0,"config":{"colors":{"62516":{"name":"Main Accent","parent":-1}},"gradients":[]},"palettes":[{"name":"Default Palette","value":{"colors":{"62516":{"val":"var(--tcb-skin-color-0)"}},"gradients":[]},"original":{"colors":{"62516":{"val":"rgb(19, 114, 211)","hsl":{"h":210,"s":0.83,"l":0.45}}},"gradients":[]}}]}__CONFIG_colors_palette__, __CONFIG_colors_palette__{"active_palette":0,"config":{"colors":{"9bd08":{"name":"Main Accent","parent":-1}},"gradients":[]},"palettes":[{"name":"Default Palette","value":{"colors":{"9bd08":{"val":"var(--tcb-skin-color-0)"}},"gradients":[]},"original":{"colors":{"9bd08":{"val":"rgb(19, 114, 211)","hsl":{"h":210,"s":0.83,"l":0.45}}},"gradients":[]}}]}__CONFIG_colors_palette__, __CONFIG_colors_palette__{"active_palette":0,"config":{"colors":{"f3080":{"name":"Main Accent","parent":-1},"f2bba":{"name":"Main Light 10","parent":"f3080"},"trewq":{"name":"Main Light 30","parent":"f3080"},"poiuy":{"name":"Main Light 80","parent":"f3080"},"f83d7":{"name":"Main Light 80","parent":"f3080"},"frty6":{"name":"Main Light 45","parent":"f3080"},"flktr":{"name":"Main Light 80","parent":"f3080"}},"gradients":[]},"palettes":[{"name":"Default","value":{"colors":{"f3080":{"val":"rgb(23, 23, 22)","hsl":{"h":60,"s":0.02,"l":0.09}},"f2bba":{"val":"rgba(23, 23, 22, 0.5)","hsl_parent_dependency":{"h":60,"s":0.02,"l":0.09,"a":0.5}},"trewq":{"val":"rgba(23, 23, 22, 0.7)","hsl_parent_dependency":{"h":60,"s":0.02,"l":0.09,"a":0.7}},"poiuy":{"val":"rgba(23, 23, 22, 0.35)","hsl_parent_dependency":{"h":60,"s":0.02,"l":0.09,"a":0.35}},"f83d7":{"val":"rgba(23, 23, 22, 0.4)","hsl_parent_dependency":{"h":60,"s":0.02,"l":0.09,"a":0.4}},"frty6":{"val":"rgba(23, 23, 22, 0.2)","hsl_parent_dependency":{"h":60,"s":0.02,"l":0.09,"a":0.2}},"flktr":{"val":"rgba(23, 23, 22, 0.8)","hsl_parent_dependency":{"h":60,"s":0.02,"l":0.09,"a":0.8}}},"gradients":[]},"original":{"colors":{"f3080":{"val":"rgb(23, 23, 22)","hsl":{"h":60,"s":0.02,"l":0.09}},"f2bba":{"val":"rgba(23, 23, 22, 0.5)","hsl_parent_dependency":{"h":60,"s":0.02,"l":0.09,"a":0.5}},"trewq":{"val":"rgba(23, 23, 22, 0.7)","hsl_parent_dependency":{"h":60,"s":0.02,"l":0.09,"a":0.7}},"poiuy":{"val":"rgba(23, 23, 22, 0.35)","hsl_parent_dependency":{"h":60,"s":0.02,"l":0.09,"a":0.35}},"f83d7":{"val":"rgba(23, 23, 22, 0.4)","hsl_parent_dependency":{"h":60,"s":0.02,"l":0.09,"a":0.4}},"frty6":{"val":"rgba(23, 23, 22, 0.2)","hsl_parent_dependency":{"h":60,"s":0.02,"l":0.09,"a":0.2}},"flktr":{"val":"rgba(23, 23, 22, 0.8)","hsl_parent_dependency":{"h":60,"s":0.02,"l":0.09,"a":0.8}}},"gradients":[]}}]}__CONFIG_colors_palette__, Top 8 Things You Should Never Say To a Person With Autism, How You Can Help Kids with ASD Reduce Bullying, How to Protect a Child With Autism From Sexual Abuse, Harassment: Ways to Reduce Risk Situations for People With Autism. 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